Thursday, December 13, 2007
i know im supposed to be supporting punk, BUT i have to answer the biggest question people have been asking, Can love really last a life-time?
Answer: Yes, as long as you dump fairytale wishes and being naive to think that love is all happy. Many relationships blossom through friendships, though a minority spring out from nowhere. according to many books i've read these last two weeks, i have come up with 5 steps to get into and preserve a relationship but obviously just reading my blog wont make you stick together with your partner, you have to ACTUALLY do it. all these are done on research from reliable sources but i claim no credit nor responsibility for outcome varies on the individual
1.Getting your partner. This is the easiest part, cos the relationship henceforth will be the challenge. getting into a race is easy, winning it is the hard part. things to look out for are usually things in common. you need to understand the personality of your other half, whether they are shy, out-going etc. this usually should match YOUR character as relating to them would be easier that way. however there must be a balance as two extremes throw you off the boat. emotionally unstable halves are not encouraged as they might lack the maturity to deal with sprouting problems in the relationship.Scientists have discovered that the mentality of 'together forever' usually calls a short lived relationship. and that the loving chemistry in the brain usually lasts for 12-18 months, after that, its up to both your own wills and determination. simply, your on your own pal.
2.Keeping it sweet yo. Simple small gestures like late night calls, sudden show ups at the front porch, flowers and kisses on the forehead. The main point is you must ENJOY each other. emotionally and physically. emotional security is one of the key points to a girls heart, all of us are insecure to begin with, it improves or deproves according to mostly upbringing. enjoying long talks and sweet nothings are good signs that you and your partner are communicating well. Kissing should not be just a couple activity, it shouldnt always be hot and heavy. it should be fun,sweet and playful. this is more comforting than pleasurable and is a good way to keep your partner interested. (Refer to Men are from mars, women are from venus by John Gray and 100 simple secrets of great reltionships: what scientists have learned and how you can use it By David Niven)
3.Problem solving. If love was a subject, we would be failing like how we fail maths.(or chinese) The first way to solving problems is that both parties need to agree to open up. Usually small unspoken problems lead to such unfortunate break ups. they usually snow ball and create huge problems that many would rather give up than try to fix it. This is a commonly faced problem which is often overlooked and its merely a psychological barrier. as long as you feel that that is a suspicious weed, bring it up and allow your other half to be aware of it so it can be rectified in its early stages. Commitment problems and communication breakdowns are eating cancers, you need to sacrifice and cut them out before they spread, not shut them out. If you and your partner seem to have frequent quarrels, it would be good to just sit and talk, it usually ends off well when you solve it, cos recovery always draws both of you closer.
4.Sorry seems to be the hardest word. Readers Digest once mentioned that" through history, people have found it easier to stop speaking to one another(my own previous relationship problem), punch, slander, shoot and bomb rather than apologize" its the case because of pride and arrogance. i used to be like that and it cost me a lot. apologizing and giving is a always a good option as it shows your tolerance, and much to the contrary, apologizing makes you a STRONGER person than a weak one. its the same theory of integrity. people respect you when you admit to something that you have done wrong, thats more courageous than wearing bright pink skinny jeans.
5.Putting in the effort.Unlike maths, putting in effort in relationships pay off. HAHA(: sacrifices must be made when you get into a relationship so dont commit if you cant.always make effort for your girlfriends guys, because girls love dudes who MAKE time even if their running short.
woo. done with my cool summary and personal views on this vague and ever changing topic of love. its still a mystery, all i have given you is a magnifying glass.
Eva : you're the first girl im actually waiting for so be honoured you monkayyy.im gonna be patient this time:D so, YO! iloveyou. i cant say much cos you left me speechless love. im sorry i hurt you before, but let me run through the rain and the pain i put you through, just to make sure you stay happy and loved REEEEEEESHAWWNNNEHXZXZ.
If i cant have you, i dont want shoes;
7:16 PM
i know im supposed to be supporting punk, BUT i have to answer the biggest question people have been asking, Can love really last a life-time?
Answer: Yes, as long as you dump fairytale wishes and being naive to think that love is all happy. Many relationships blossom through friendships, though a minority spring out from nowhere. according to many books i've read these last two weeks, i have come up with 5 steps to get into and preserve a relationship but obviously just reading my blog wont make you stick together with your partner, you have to ACTUALLY do it. all these are done on research from reliable sources but i claim no credit nor responsibility for outcome varies on the individual
1.Getting your partner. This is the easiest part, cos the relationship henceforth will be the challenge. getting into a race is easy, winning it is the hard part. things to look out for are usually things in common. you need to understand the personality of your other half, whether they are shy, out-going etc. this usually should match YOUR character as relating to them would be easier that way. however there must be a balance as two extremes throw you off the boat. emotionally unstable halves are not encouraged as they might lack the maturity to deal with sprouting problems in the relationship.Scientists have discovered that the mentality of 'together forever' usually calls a short lived relationship. and that the loving chemistry in the brain usually lasts for 12-18 months, after that, its up to both your own wills and determination. simply, your on your own pal.
2.Keeping it sweet yo. Simple small gestures like late night calls, sudden show ups at the front porch, flowers and kisses on the forehead. The main point is you must ENJOY each other. emotionally and physically. emotional security is one of the key points to a girls heart, all of us are insecure to begin with, it improves or deproves according to mostly upbringing. enjoying long talks and sweet nothings are good signs that you and your partner are communicating well. Kissing should not be just a couple activity, it shouldnt always be hot and heavy. it should be fun,sweet and playful. this is more comforting than pleasurable and is a good way to keep your partner interested. (Refer to Men are from mars, women are from venus by John Gray and 100 simple secrets of great reltionships: what scientists have learned and how you can use it By David Niven)
3.Problem solving. If love was a subject, we would be failing like how we fail maths.(or chinese) The first way to solving problems is that both parties need to agree to open up. Usually small unspoken problems lead to such unfortunate break ups. they usually snow ball and create huge problems that many would rather give up than try to fix it. This is a commonly faced problem which is often overlooked and its merely a psychological barrier. as long as you feel that that is a suspicious weed, bring it up and allow your other half to be aware of it so it can be rectified in its early stages. Commitment problems and communication breakdowns are eating cancers, you need to sacrifice and cut them out before they spread, not shut them out. If you and your partner seem to have frequent quarrels, it would be good to just sit and talk, it usually ends off well when you solve it, cos recovery always draws both of you closer.
4.Sorry seems to be the hardest word. Readers Digest once mentioned that" through history, people have found it easier to stop speaking to one another(my own previous relationship problem), punch, slander, shoot and bomb rather than apologize" its the case because of pride and arrogance. i used to be like that and it cost me a lot. apologizing and giving is a always a good option as it shows your tolerance, and much to the contrary, apologizing makes you a STRONGER person than a weak one. its the same theory of integrity. people respect you when you admit to something that you have done wrong, thats more courageous than wearing bright pink skinny jeans.
5.Putting in the effort.Unlike maths, putting in effort in relationships pay off. HAHA(: sacrifices must be made when you get into a relationship so dont commit if you cant.always make effort for your girlfriends guys, because girls love dudes who MAKE time even if their running short.
woo. done with my cool summary and personal views on this vague and ever changing topic of love. its still a mystery, all i have given you is a magnifying glass.
Eva : you're the first girl im actually waiting for so be honoured you monkayyy.im gonna be patient this time:D so, YO! iloveyou. i cant say much cos you left me speechless love. im sorry i hurt you before, but let me run through the rain and the pain i put you through, just to make sure you stay happy and loved REEEEEEESHAWWNNNEHXZXZ.
If i cant have you, i dont want shoes;
7:16 PM